These are among the criterion that always pop up in a girl's mind whenever asked "Describe ur dream guy" :

1). Calon suami yang tidak merokok(non-smoker)
2). Calon suami yang bersembahyang, taat pada
perintah Allah (a guy who does his prayers, and good to his religion)
3). Penyayang, Penyabar (loving, and patient)
4). Suka Berterus terang (honest)
5). Romantik (romantic)
6). TIdak mempermainkan Kaum Hawa (not a playboy)
7). Berbudi Bahasa (articulate)
8). Kelakar (good sense of humour)

And here, are what a less-than-perfect guy retorts to those over the top criterion:

1). Purata 9 daripada 10 lelaki adalah perokok, camner la korang nak carik yang tak merokok...kekadang tu dia tak merokok depan korang...tapi belakang... tak pun dalam toilet~

my comment: yes...that's absolutely true. Girls, we just hv to accept the fact that boys will be boys; they like to die early as long as they enjoy life :) And for the fact that second-hand smokers get the biggest impact of smoking...well...that just never crossed their heads. Maybe just once or twice. So, if ur bf smokes...just hold ur breath.

2). Yup, Sembahyang @ Solat... yang diwajibkan ada 5, tapi alahai...kadang2 dapat 3 pun dah besar rahmat dah la.. kadang2 tuh sekali seminggu jek.... lagi teruk 2 kali setahun.... tuh pun baik dah tuh ingat semayang cane...Wallahualam..~

my comment: For muslim ladies, included in the guideline to choose a husband according to quran, or hadith (i m not sure)...is actually 'choose one who r good with his religion so he can guide u'. So, it is immature to scoff at those girls who add this criteria in their dream guy becoz they r just trying to follow the guideline. But of course, nowadays...these guys r almost extinct. So girls, no need to look for pious guys who can lead u to God. U can lead the way urself.


3). Penyayang & Penyabor?? mungkin masa bercinta & masa tengah carik jodoh jer kot...riso lepas kawin jadik Penerajang & Penampor jerk...tak pun penyayang dan penyabor ngan bini lain jek..~

my comment: This two criterion shouldnt be put into one. It should be separated. Some guys r loving but hot tempered. Some r distant, but very patient. So...according to this guy who wrote the above statement...brace urself girls. Ur loving and patient, gentle bf now will be a monster once married. The moment he hits u, RUN. and make police report. but as for now, just enjoy his company...as long as his 'loving and patient self' is still there.

4). Lelaki memang suka berterus terang...takde gelap2 punya...omputih kata straight 2 the point...melayu kata, sound tepat... tak macam pompuan, lidah bercabang seribu.....depan cakap punyer la baik.... blakang?

my comment: that's a really horrid statement. bcoz anyone can be lidah bercabang. regardless of gender. but then again, if guys label women as lidah bercabang, then i suppose women can label guys as menananam tebu di hujung bibir. y? becoz he can say 'i love u' to u when he is text messaging 'i love u' to another girl. get the point? No? too bad.


5). Romantik? apa definisi romantik yang sebenarnya? cari dalam kamus tengok -camner
ciri2 lelaki romantik...sesapa leh huraikan?? Kalau nak ikot stail cite cinta omputeh tuh, mimpi jek la, dalam mimpi pun tak tentu romantik lagi~

my comment: not all guys r romantic. sorry girls. most guys hv no sense of romance at all. although all of them want sex from us...


6). Kaum lelaki memang tidak pernah sesekali mempermainkan kaum Hawa..never...ever...forever... hakikat yang berlaku sekarang ni...kaum lelaki la yang banyak kena main dengan kaum Hawa...lelaki kalau dia kata dia sayang, dia cinta.... arus elektrik pun tak dapat hanyutkan dia....but ingat....itu kalau dia kata dia sayang or cinta jerk.... pompuan, kalau cinta or sayang pun dier tetap permainkan hati laki jugak.... pompuan neh memang, busuk sungguh~

my comment: girls tak busuk...jarang busuk...laki lebih busuk. just go to their room and u will crave for fresh air. haha. btw, the statement that guys never mempermainkan perempuan...hello? dont make me laugh. unless someone can explain to me why some guys like to flirt around, make girls fall in love with them, then leave. If they leave. Some dont leave. Instead, they will make a 'collection'. Undeniable that girls ada gak camtu...playgirl. But to say that guys never ever play with a girl's heart? that's something irrational.


7). Berbudi Bahasa ni kena tengok dengan attitude seseorang tu..kalau cara dia cakap dengan kita pun macam hampeh, takkan la dia tak hampeh depan mak bapak kita esok. nak yang betul berbudi?? cari la yang tak hampeh... tapi diri sendiri tuh lom tau lagi hampeh ke tak, so cermin diri sendiri dulu gak, dah dier hampeh, dapat la laki
yang hampeh~

my comment: couldnt hv agreed more to this statement. finally, a well-said one, with no bias.

8). Kelakar....nampak gaya kaum lelaki kena langgan majalah ujang la...supaya ada modal time dating nanti...memang best dapat pasangan yang kelakar...tapi kalau sebijik macam Mr.Bean...rasanya mak bapak kita pun malu nak ngaku menantu..kan..kan...kan? Tuh pun bagus lagi Mr. Bean tuh, mau nyer cam Pak Cik Din
Beramboi? lagi la malu....

my comment: I dont think 'funny' should be included in the criteria of a dream guy. should change it to 'someone who makes me smile' instead (credits to mr. kukuchi on this one). Enuff said :)



So, as the conclusion:

Guys blame girls. Girls blame guys. Wake up! we share this world. we need each other. girls do tend to set a very high standard in their 'dream guy'. and guys, takder kurangnya jugak. except that they dont exactly go for inner traits; they go for physical traits such as 36-24-36. Long straight hair. Fair skin. small nose. big eyes bla bla bla. Its not the problem of girls expect too high or guys expect too high...this is just a matter of HUMAN NATURE. it is human to dream of something big. is it so wrong? The issue is actually, whether one can distinguish between dream and reality. i believe that all of us, boys and girls, can distinguish that. So, it is not wrong to dream of this super perfect guy or super sexy woman...as long as u know, that no one is perfect. My bf is not perfect. from that usual 'dream guy' criterion, he only has 1/4 of the traits. but i m happy :) Afterall, thats what love is all about: accepting ur partner as he/she is..including the weaknesses (another credits to mr. kukuchi).

Just another of my 2 cents.